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by gold stone (2019-05-08)

And use your heart to listen Inteligen Review to what they may say. An old woman telling you she wants to go home really needs you to validate her feelings. In longterm care, people with dementia are homeless. Don't tell them "This is your home now."It would be very rare for anyone ever to feel at home in longterm care. Ask instead, "Where is your home?" and learn from the answers.You are most likely to learn that "home" was 70 years ago with Mom and Pop in the family farm in Nebraska. Maybe 40 years ago on a smallholding in California with a young husband and a couple of babies. Or maybe home is with God, after this tired old heart has come to rest. Maybe home is death.Don't be afraid to say gently, "I guess you really miss your home right now," because you can count upon it that's true. Don't be that kind of direct care person who needs everyone to give a big smile, to cheer up and have a happy face.If elders in our care do weep, we are privileged to be there to help in that moment to carry their sorrow. Because they have plenty to cry about. Here they are, in a strange place, with a bunch people with dementia, not even knowing how to have a life here.Your real job as a direct care person is to offer the support of your heart to someone old and frightened who is trying to have a life of some kind in the place they're in.Don't be afraid that, if someone starts to cry, they won't be able to stop. These are old people. Not only do they not have the energy to cry for limitless time, but also they're grownups.They know how life is. Life has tough times in it. It's unfair. It hard. And then, miraculously, in the middle of all that bitter struggle, someone comes up to help you carry that burden.If people cry, your job becomes to pass the Kleenex and listen well. Most elders will lead themselves through the grief, the sharing, the wiping away of tears and then the pulling the self together. That's because they really are grownups.ADHD or attention deficit hyper activity disorder is a common childhood disorder characterized by three core symptoms of hyperactivity, inattention, and impulsivity. Often, children with ADHD are misunderstood because of their behavior. Teachers might think that they are troublemakers while peers might say that they are bullies (especially in predominantly hyperactive-impulsive type of attention deficit hyper activity disorder).